Engineering Guy played hockey with Wes one winter. Engineering Guy had to play in a different town. Wes' dad was one of the coaches on the team and his mom was Engineering Guy's most vocal fan section before or since. In later years when they competed against each other Wes would always stay after the game to razz or congratulate Engineering Guy (the guy is a goalie).
I hope and pray there is a way to put two and two together to come up with a more positive outcome.